It’s Not You–It’s Me.

Written by: Sara Potter

Available In: eBook

Author Website: https://www.amazon.com/Sara-Potter/e/B082MPJPS7?ref_=dbs_p_ebk_r00_abau_000000

I got out of a six year relationship just shy of my 30th birthday. It lacked closure and answers, and while most of my friends were getting married and having babies, I felt…lost. I was single for the first time since I was 23. I knew it was for the best, but it was still a lot to process. It took a little while for me to realize that the whole “older and wiser” thing definitely applies to dating and relationships. During this time in my life, although I felt lost, I never let self-pity creep in. I was frustrated, confused, and sad, but I knew I could find clarity if I was brave enough to really look for it.

I knew I had to be good and ready to take a look in the rear view mirror if I wanted to gain any real insight. It took me about six months to get to a point where I felt like I could accept that the relationship I’d put so much effort into was only meant to be a chapter; to realize that my next relationship could be a hundred times better if I was willing to put in that same effort on my own self-reflection. Spoiler alert: I was right.

“It’s Not You—It’s Me.” is ultimately a year’s worth of personal growth on paper. It is a recollection of my thoughts and perspectives and how they evolved as I got to know myself on a deeper level and eventually found the right partner. I forced myself to look through a sharper lens and discovered details, priorities and attributes that relate to myself and the relationships I have with others that I had previously overlooked. My experience is told in three parts, and intended to be a quick read; a story that resonates with you and provides a framework for self-evaluation and discovery which I hope will help you strengthen relationships that matter, and let go of ones that don't.